Gratitude is often described as the secret ingredient to happiness. We hear it everywhere: “Write a gratitude list,” “Count your blessings,” or “Tell people you appreciate them.” These practices sound intuitive—and they do have value—but what if science told us there’s an even more effective way to experience the benefits of gratitude?
According to Dr. Andrew Huberman, professor of neurobiology at Stanford University School of Medicine, the biggest boost to our well-being doesn’t come from expressing gratitude—it comes from receiving gratitude and observing others express it. This insight flips the traditional approach on its head and opens the door to a new way of thinking about emotional health.
Why Receiving Gratitude Works Better
When someone thanks us sincerely or acknowledges our efforts, our brain releases a cocktail of neurochemicals—serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and even epinephrine—that promote feelings of connection, motivation, and calm. These chemicals don’t just make us feel good; they have measurable physiological benefits, including lower heart rate and blood pressure, reduced inflammation and improved immune function, and greater resilience and emotional regulation.
Observing gratitude in others—such as witnessing someone express appreciation—activates similar pathways. This is because our brains are wired for empathy and social bonding. Simply put, gratitude is contagious, and when we’re on the receiving end, the effects are profound.
The Hidden Challenge: Accepting Gratitude
Here’s the catch: many of us struggle to accept compliments or expressions of thanks. We deflect, minimize, or change the subject. This habit robs us of the benefits that gratitude offers. Instead, try this:
- Pause and absorb the moment. When someone thanks you, resist the urge to brush it off.
- Reflect on it later. Replay the compliment in your mind or jot it down. Repetition strengthens the neural circuits associated with positive emotion.
Think of gratitude as a gift. When you accept it fully, you allow your brain and body to experience its healing effects. And you allow the person expressing gratitude to feel valued, acknowledged, and meaningfully connected.
Harnessing the Power of Gratitude Stories
Our brains love stories—they’re how we make sense of the world. To amplify gratitude’s impact, engage with narratives where someone receives help or kindness during hardship. Choose stories you relate to, as relatability deepens emotional resonance. After reading or watching, ask yourself:
- Why did this story move me?
- What does it teach me about connection and support?
Write down your reflections and revisit them regularly. This practice reinforces gratitude pathways in the brain, making them stronger over time.
Other Practical Steps to Make Gratitude Work for You
- Accept compliments without deflection. Practice saying, “Thank you, I appreciate that,” and let it sink in.
- Create a “gratitude received” journal. Instead of listing what you’re thankful for, record moments when others expressed gratitude toward you.
- Watch gratitude in action. Seek out videos, books, or real-life examples of people helping others and expressing thanks.
- Reflect consistently. Aim for at least three sessions per week—morning, evening, or whenever you can.
The Ripple Effect
When you embrace gratitude—both receiving and observing it—you’re not only improving your mood but also rewiring your brain for resilience, reducing stress, and strengthening your immune system. Over time, these small practices create a ripple effect, influencing your relationships, your health, and your overall sense of wellbeing.
So, start Thinking Differently About Gratitude today. Accept that compliment. Watch that uplifting story. Write down what moved you. And if this approach makes a difference in your life, let me know—I’d be grateful for that.
